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Gift Poems: Are they a Yes or a No?

As a wedding stationer part of my job is to provide to my clients everything they ask for within their wedding invitations. To be enthusiastic about their ideas and be non-judgemental about the things they want, that I would personally maybe do a little differently. After all it’s not my wedding!

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So back in the day when “tradition” was kept to, and most couples had not yet moved in together, a gift list was expected. Whether it be a new toaster, or dinner service, the list was out there and people just bought from the list no questions asked.

These days most couples have lived together for a few years, have already started expanding their family and have no need for most household items, so a “gift poem” is often put into their invites. Most commonly it’s to politely ask for money towards a honeymoon.

“If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, A gift towards our honeymoon would help us on our way”

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I read an article last week about a woman who’d been invited to an ex-colleague’s wedding. She had kindly written a cheque to the happy couple for £100. The bride emailed her a few days later suggesting that she may want to pay more to match what other guests had given, and subsequently added her bank details.

Now here’s the question…

Is it wrong to expect a gift from your guests and then in that expectation politely ask instead for the gift of money?

I personally didn’t add a gift poem to our invites as we wanted people to  feel they could come and enjoy our day, and if they bought a gift or left us money, then it was appreciated but not necessary…This in turn cause more harm than good as both sets of parents were regularly being asked what we wanted…

I think the moral of the story is…

Your guests want to celebrate your day and they also want to help contribute to you both starting your new lives as Mr and Mrs. These days there aren’t any rules and people expect and appreciate that, more often than not, money is much more beneficial. If they don’t like it, you’ll probably get a nice pair of champagne glasses or keepsake photo frame! Either way, it won’t spoil your special day…

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